strange things....

You never really know where a cup of coffee and good conversation is going to lead. After that two hour+ conversation at the coffee shop I would have never imagined what would unfold in the days that followed. 


After getting dropped off at home that night, I had sent a text message thanking JP and letting him know that I had a good time. He said the same. The next day, I got a message from him saying he enjoyed our conversation and wanted to see me again, but that he was on his way to AZ to his parent's house because of some issue with his immigration papers. He called to explain the situation a bit better while he was in bumper to bumper traffic in Kentucky and again later when he had to get a new tire put on. I don't know what it was, but something interesting was about to start forming. 


What is the first thing that usually comes to mind when someone is having problems with their legal immigration status? Well, besides deportation there is marriage. Which is what many of his friends brought up as a solution to the situation. We joked about it a bit at first and continued talking every day on the phone and via text, getting to know each other. One thing he was adamant about from the beginning was that he would only pursue the marriage option with someone if he truly saw himself with that person. 


There was something refreshing about being able to be completely and utterly honest with another person, especially one of the opposite sex. We talked about anything and everything: favorite books, favorite movies, biggest pet peeves, what side of the bed we sleep on. Over time, things started progressing from joking to something more serious. When we talked about what was happening, things were becoming clearer. We started talking about more important topics like how many kids we want, where we want to live, how big of a house to have. He also began showing me information on what the legal process would be if we were to move forward with everything. We started talking about how astonished we both were in the fact that neither one of us ever expected this to grow into what it was. I even asked him one night about how he knew when it crossed over from a joke to something real. Here is what he said: "I was thinking, before shit happened {him having to return to AZ because of paperwork issues} I'm going to pursue this woman, there's something about her that makes me tick and after the conversation on Sat about Texas, I thought, yep, she is someone I'd love around in my life, maybe she's someone who can keep me on my toes and then Mon or Tues, can't remember when, I realised yes, this is a woman I'd like around, and I'm going to try and keep her around in my life." Now, a note about the Texas conversation. He had been driving through Texas and we got to talking about how it was the 'Lone-Star' state because it had at one point been a separate country. We also got to talking about the states and in particular a show on the History Channel called "How the States Got their Shape" and remembered one about the state of Texas. We were talking about the different countries' flags that are flown at the state house in Texas but couldn't come up with all six. Here is where being a super-nerd came in handy. You see, I'm a bit of a nerd. Ok, a lot a bit a nerd. Because of this I did a Google search of Texas to find out the six different countries and called him back. He told me that this had impressed him and that one thing he is looking for in a woman is someone who can challenge him and wants to teach him things, and a woman he can converse with about anything and everything. Well if there is one thing I know to do well, it's talk. I think one of the things that automatically drew me to him is the fact that he talks as much, if not more, than I do. Our Skype conversations run on for hours and before I know it, it's 3 or 4 am. You would think that after almost a month of such extensive conversations, we'd just about cover everything we both knew. But there is always something else. Something new to talk about. Something new to show the other person on a favorite website, or a map, or some nugget of information they got that day. 


Even though there are thousands of miles between us right now, we grow closer every day. I look forward to where this crazy adventure will lead.